My Aunt, my late mother's sister, is quite a character and quite the amazing person. Despite being stricken by gradually worsening Multiple Sclerosis since she was in her 30s, she's continued to be extremely active in her community, traveled the world and oft-kicked my ass in Scrabble (online and offline). By the way, "Look it up Jeffrey!" is my least favorite expression in the world. After surviving two heart bypass operations, two shoulder operations and numerous other incidents in fifteen years, she broke both of her femurs in separate accidents last year. Then her dog passed away.
And then I received my first cancer announcement via email this weekend - she often types in caps due to the way her hands shake from MS:
"TO THOSE OF YOU WHO DON'T KNOW YET OR WHO HAVE NOT BEEN PART OF THE LOOP, HERE'S HOW IT PLAYS: ABOUT 6 WEEKS AGO THE MEDICS NOTICED THAT MY WHITE CELL COUNT SEEMED TO HAVE DROPPED AND FURTHER BLOOD WORK INDICATED THAT MY RED CELLS AND MY POTASSIUM ALSO DROPPED. EARLIER THIS WEEK THE ONCOLOGIST DID A BONE-MARROW BIOPSY. THE RESULTS ARE THAT I HAVE LEUKEMIA, PROBABLY ACUTE MYELOGENOUS LEUKEMIA (LOOK THAT ONE UP ON YOUR INTERNET). THIS USUALLY OCCURS IN PEOPLE OVER 65."
Then a day later ...
>> THE DOC HAS GIVEN ME SEVERAL CHOICES: IF I DO NOTHING - I HAVE WEEKS TO
>> LIVE. YES, YOU READ THAT CORRECTLY - WEEKS.
She's opted for treatment which offers an 80% success rate. I am hopeful she'll pull through.
I share this because it's an interesting time in the world when personal boundaries and email are colliding shifting and shaping our culture. If someone has news like this to report, it's really up to them how they want to share it. Far be it from me to judge anyone in this situation. I learned that from Jeanne Sather.
I took a writing course from Jeanne and she helped me with my articles for the Seattle Weekly. Jeanne's a long time cancer survivor and has written about dealing with the disease on her terms - and not in the way that society may wish or want you to.
Because this country hasn't made health care a right, Jeanne's chronic cancer has kept her teetered on the "edge of bankruptcy" for many years now. While Michael Moore's documentary Sicko shared a link to Hook a Canuck! for Americans wishing to date Canadians for a more secure health care safety net, the link actually takes you to a blank page with some Google Ads.
Coincidentally, Jeanne is now proposing a dating service for U.S. and Canadian Cancer Patients:
Assertive, adventurous 52-year-old woman, living with incurable cancer, would like to meet a marriage-minded Canadian gent who is a cancer survivor or living with the disease.
Me: Writer, artist, teacher, well-known cancer blogger. Mother of two almost-grown sons (22 and 17). Vegetarian (but you don’t have to be). Loves animals (two large dogs and three cats), gardening, house projects. The beach. Books. Travel. Financially solvent except for absurdly expensive health insurance premiums and medical costs. Dislikes: Pink ribbons, chemotherapy, and unsolicited advice.
You: Age 45 to about 57. Canadian citizen living in Vancouver, B.C., or willing to relocate there. Cancer patient or survivor. Open-minded. Bit of a risk taker. Warm hearted but not clinging. Bald OK.
I’m not looking for a caretaker, and you shouldn’t be either. I am looking for a lover and new best friend.
Contact: jeanne.sather@gmail.com with photo.
Jeanne, thanks for being supportive of us bald guys. I assume naturally bald guys won't be excluded?
For those of you who think Jeanne is in poor taste, go to hell or write her a check. More than 50% of bankruptcies in this country are due to health care costs. And we call ourselves civilized.
For the record, my Aunt is happily married to my awesome supportive uncle. When she joked to him after this most recent trauma that perhaps he should have married someone else, he said he would make the same decision all over again.
And remember, we don't need insurance, we need Guaranteed Healthcare.
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